Category: A12– Everything under the Sun

  • 'He, the patient?

    ‘He, the patient?,’ asked the girl at the clinic counter, after examining my insurance papers handed over by Megh, daughter-in-law.
    ‘Me, the patient?,’ I asked myself. ‘Why does she call me a patient?’.
    In the next moment I mused again, ‘if I’m not a patient, why did I come here?. My problem according to me might be a minor one, but still I’m a patient’
    I could find a supporting example too. I’m called a traveler, whether I travel five miles or five hundred miles.
    ‘How do you compare a patient with a traveler?,’ asked another voice from within.
    But, there was no need for any argument. The doctor, after examination, confirmed that I was  a patient!
    It is better to know where you stand instead of remaining in a state of confusion.
    While coming out of the clinic, I had another doubt. ‘Is it the same me who went inside?’
    The reason for this doubt was, I had some friends who went inside hospitals in full ‘jor’ means, proudly, but came out, ( sorry not came out, it should read were brought out ), as a different person or no person!
    But that doubt too was soon cleared when I asked Megh to give back my iPad to click the picture of the flowerbeds at the gate!
    Nice to have an iPad!
    Oh, It is me, very much, sakshat, real, Perinkulam, the great ! But the real greatness will be known only when I visit the hospital next time. And the person deciding that would be my doctor.
    But, will I be entering the hospital again as patient and will the girl at the counter ask again, ‘he the patient?’

  • Pomegranate skin

     
    imageRemove the outer skin of Pomegranate, collect the seeds, but don’t discard the skin! Remember grand ma’s home remedy ? After sun- drying the skin, she used to preserve the outer shell in sealed bottles and when required, powder it, mix it with warm butter -milk and serve. I fact, even the pomegranate seeds and its juice are equally good or even better as loose -motion -remedies but preserved skin comes handy when the fruits are not readily available.The liberally watered butter milk helps preventing dehydration of body.
    During diarrhoea there is an increased loss of water and electrolytes (sodium, chloride, potassium, and bicarbonate) in the liquid stool. Water and electrolytes are also lost through vomit, sweat, urine and breathing. Dehydration occurs when these losses are not replaced adequately and a deficit of water and electrolytes develops.
    Nowadays, replacements for the dehydration losses are readily available in pharmacies and in acute cases, hospitalization is a must.
    Generally, the skin of all fruits contain equal or more nutrients but without realizing their importance some peel even apples and mangoes before eating.
    Except human skin almost all skins of animals and fruits are useful in one way or other. And thank God for making human skin worthless. Otherwise- I dread to imagine the consequence!
    Love,
    SP

  • One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory

    imageI forgot what this is about. Oh, it is about forgetfulness!
    ‘Forgetfulness is one of the ‘curses’ of old age’
    Do you agree? No, I don’t . It is in fact, a gift from the God. Many times, it is a boon to forget some past happenings in life, which otherwise will be tormenting us.
    The wounds on our body often heals but not the ones acquired by or inflicted on our heart. Imagine the agony of all those wounds, acquired throughout the past, remaing unhealed! It is a boon that we are able to dump such wounds, at least some of them into the depth of forgetfulness.
    At times, I wish, that my memory sleeps even on some recent unpleasant events.
    I don’t now say, ‘Che, maranthu potchu- sorry, I forgot!’
    Nothing to be sorry about it- ( in some cases at least)
    The fun is while young, we forget to eat in time, due to busy work, but in old age, we don’t forget to eat or sleep. Thank God for that. But we do forget many past events in our life, when the age advances. Thank God for that too.
    Here is a poem on The subject by BILLY COLLINS, copied from the web.
    ‘The name of the author is the first to go
    followed obediently by the title, the plot,
    the heartbreaking conclusion, the entire novel
    which suddenly becomes one you have never read,
    never even heard of,
    as if, one by one, the memories you used to harbor
    decided to retire to the southern hemisphere of the brain,
    to a little fishing village where there are no phones.
    Long ago you kissed the names of the nine Muses goodbye
    and watched the quadratic equation pack its bag,
    and even now as you memorize the order of the planets,
    something else is slipping away, a state flower perhaps,
    the address of an uncle, the capital of Paraguay.
    Whatever it is you are struggling to remember,
    it is not poised on the tip of your tongue,
    not even lurking in some obscure corner of your spleen.
    It has floated away down a dark mythological river
    whose name begins with an L as far as you can recall,
    well on your own way to oblivion where you will join those
    who have even forgotten how to swim and how to ride a bicycle.
    No wonder you rise in the middle of the night
    to look up the date of a famous battle in a book on war.
    No wonder the moon in the window seems to have drifted
    out of a love poem that you used to know by heart’
    Billy Collins

  • On forgetfulness

    imageI forgot what this is about. Oh, it is about forgetfulness!
    ‘Forgetfulness is one of the ‘curses’ of old age’
    Do you agree? No, I don’t . It is in fact, a gift from the God. Many times, it is a boon to forget some past happenings in life, which otherwise will be tormenting us.
    The wounds on our body often heals but not the ones acquired by or inflicted on our heart. Imagine the agony of all those wounds, acquired throughout the past remaing unhealed! It is boon that we are able to dump such wounds, at least some of them into the depth of forgetfulness.
    At times, I wish, that my memory sleeps even on some recent unpleasant events.
    Now I don’t say, ‘Che, maranthu potchu- sorry, I forgot!’ Nothing to be sorry about it- ( in some cases at least)
    The fun is while young, we forget to eat in time, due to busy work, but in old age, we don’t forget to eat or sleep. Thank God for that. But we do forget many past events in our life. Thank God for that too.
    Here is a poem on Forgetfulness by BILLY COLLINS from the web.
    ‘The name of the author is the first to go
    followed obediently by the title, the plot,
    the heartbreaking conclusion, the entire novel
    which suddenly becomes one you have never read,
    never even heard of,
    as if, one by one, the memories you used to harbor
    decided to retire to the southern hemisphere of the brain,
    to a little fishing village where there are no phones.
    Long ago you kissed the names of the nine Muses goodbye
    and watched the quadratic equation pack its bag,
    and even now as you memorize the order of the planets,
    something else is slipping away, a state flower perhaps,
    the address of an uncle, the capital of Paraguay.
    Whatever it is you are struggling to remember,
    it is not poised on the tip of your tongue,
    not even lurking in some obscure corner of your spleen.
    It has floated away down a dark mythological river
    whose name begins with an L as far as you can recall,
    well on your own way to oblivion where you will join those
    who have even forgotten how to swim and how to ride a bicycle.
    No wonder you rise in the middle of the night
    to look up the date of a famous battle in a book on war.
    No wonder the moon in the window seems to have drifted
    out of a love poem that you used to know by heart’
    Billy Collins

  • Random thought waves

    ‘A rich person is really not the one who has the most
    but is the one who needs the least’ —
    It takes time to understand this truth but earlier we learn, good for us.
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    Under great distress she said, ‘I want to join Buddhism, as our gods have failed me’
    ‘Do you think Budha or Mahavira can do what thirty thousand and odd gods could not do?’ I asked and suggested, ‘believe in you, rather than in this god or that god and as then, you will be the one to be blamed, if you fail’
    ‘I erred in believing in God?,’ She asked.
    ‘No, you erred in expecting help from gods?’
    ‘If not for timely help, what are gods for ?’
    ‘There is a joy in believing in God. Only for that and nothing more, nothing less’
    Some of you may disagree with me. But my firm belief is that if you believe in God expecting a reward, you are for great disappointment.
    Like karma for the sake of karma, bakhthi for the sake of bakhthi, is what gives us peace.
    I can write volumes on this topic, nut not now as I’m in the same state as my friend is, as we both have suffered the same loss.
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    Regretting the past and worrying for the future leads only in neglecting the present –
    Then, when do we live?
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    Satamanam bhavati
    Satayuh(f) purushas’
    satendriya Ayush
    yevendriye’ pratitishthati.
    Live for a hundred years!
    Is it really necessary ? I doubt when I see the agony, both mental and physical of a few with long life, known to me.
    If one lives long, his health, both mental and physical, has to be reasonably good. He should not be subjected to putrasokam and other miseries . He should be able to attend to his own needs, at least to some extend.
    But, only in rare cases, this happens. And they are blessed.
    Otherwise, it is better to die, much earlier, while in good health.
    But, the end is not in our hands.
    My father never prayed for long life. He prayed,
    Anayasena Maranam Vina dainyena Jeevanam; Dehi me Krupaya Sambho Raksha Raksha Maheshwara.’
    He knew the world.
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    At times, when I wonder whether God created man or man created God, my conscious tells me, ‘why worry ? Both ways, it was a good job’
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    Our body doesn’t suddenly succumb to the subjugation of diseases; it send some alarm bells. It is for us to watch for them and act.
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    Have a willing to change; you w’ll change.
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    It is good to have belief in God, but before that, you should have belief in you.
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  • On pain and old age

    We outsource almost everything almost everything, including God-worship a purely personal affair between man and his creator.
    The Chettiar in my corner shop does pooja on Saturday evenings through an ‘Iyer’, on payment. A couple in the neighborhood, extremely busy with their medical career, gets the pooja in their home, done through a Pandit, just as they entrust the care of their baby, while in their work, with a baby sitter.
    Dasharath Maharaja and several other Rajas, performed Yagams through learned scholars and Rishies and the gods were satisfied.
    You can outsource, almost everything but not your pains, mental and physical. In old age, the possibilities are the pain level increases and the tolerance level decreases.
    So, everyone should get trained from the young days to face pain.
    Richness, affluence, scholarship, merits, rewards
    – all those attributes stand helpless before pain.
    Do not curse pain; get habituated if you can’t get over it.
     

  • Original dialect comes out in crisis.

    One of the problems created by my long overseas stay is my memory loss of my original dialect. Otherwise why did I forget the customary way of talk when I entered uninvited into the house of my childhood friend and neighbour, Muthappa, during my last visit to Olavakkode, where I grew?
    ‘Hei, Ayishaa!,’ I entered greeting his wife, sweeping the floor with a long broomstick. She had seen me earlier only in my lungi or veshti and that too several years ago and hence could not recognize me.
    ‘Ente Alla! , Ivadae vannae!, ‘ She called her husband, ‘oru ChaithAn entae Peru vilitchu akathu kaeririkkunu. Hei, chaey, nnu vilitchondu- a devil has entered calling my name and saying, ‘hei, chaey”. How dare he is !
    ‘How do you do?’ I enquired, ignoring her abuse. ChaithAn or Satan is a moderate appellation compared to several others a Muslim woman would have used against an intruder into her home, uttering her name!
    ‘I do, this,’ she said continuing her sweeping and by that time, probably, she could recall some familiarity with my face. Freed from fear, she handed over the broomstick to me and said, ‘now, you do!’
    Kerala is known for universal education and I was not surprised when she replied, ‘I do this’, when I asked ,’how do you do?’
    And her ‘now you do’ offer to clean her house showed her liberal mind and also how accurately she understood my, ‘how do you do?’
    While I stood hesitating whether to sweep or not, her husband’s course voice came from inside, ‘Pahaya, Ingu vaa- come inside, you, the cursed one ‘
    I entered the kitchen, led by the lady of the house, still holding the broomstick in hand. I could not see my friend but his son who was there cleaning a fish.
    ‘What’s up ?’ I asked him.
    ‘He is up!’ He replied and showed me the attic, where Muthappa was cleaning a big brass vessel, what we call ‘kuttakam’. It is a solid stuff, heavy weight, with a big belly, used for storage of rice or grains or coking in large quantity.
    ‘Ontae oru Ingreesu!’ Making fun of my language, he lifted the kuttakam and was about to throw it down, saying, ‘Ithu piditcho, Hyderabad NavAabae!’ – ‘catch this, you, Nawab of Hyderabad!’
    Had it fallen on my head, it would have been pulverized. At that critical moment, I screamed, ‘Hamukkae, nirthadaa!’ In the local colloquial. ‘You the cursed one, stop it!’
    Original  dialect comes out in crisis. .

  • Sea and Fire absorb all

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    From my archives
    A view through the car window on a journey from New Jersey to Baltimore
    Whatever be the skin colour, every body, ultimately has to go back to the Elements. So, like cafeterias, cloth shops or churches or temples, the burial ground too have demand in any country, any city, any village. Our ancestors were wise enough to foresee that one day or other, there would be utter space shortage and hence they recommended the method of cremation to dispose off the bodies which become useless, by charring it to ashes and dropping the burnt materials into flowing waters which will carry the waste to the sea.
    And the Sea, like Fire, absorbs all, live or dead, good or bad!
    Love and regards,
    Sp

  • Weddings, those days.

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    This picture brings to my memory two stories, I have heard about the childhood weddings of olden days.
    Two brothers were getting married on the same day. The girls were below ten and boys older only by a few years. While the couples turned the street corner holding hands, on their way to the nearby temple, an old man, raised his eyes to get a clear view of the pairs under the dim street lights and quipped, ‘ah, ithu eppo nadannu, ee all maattam- ah, when did happen this exchange of brides?’
    They were holding wrong hands!
    Another story, after about 15/20 years .
    The bride’s party waited till the last boat arrived on the wedding eve, but no trace of the bridegroom’s party-( boat was the only transport available ). They were worried. The village elder said, ‘wait till tomorrow morning. Even if they land just five minutes before the Muhoortham, we will perform the wedding’
    No luck, next morning too. No trace of the bridegroom’s group in the morning boats too. One, two, three boats have landed. Time was flying. Once the Muhoortham time lapses, nothing could be done for another six months as that was the last muhoortham in that season.
    A thick curtain of gloom landed on the wedding venue. All arrangements made elaborately for the 5- days wedding was going waste. Everyone was depressed. A few women wiped off their tears; Men looked into the kitchen to confirm that the breakfast was already prepared, so that they could at least have one meal and disperse. But, there came an announcement by the family head: ‘Request no one to leave the venue without having breakfast and lunch,’ ‘We will stay back, if you desires so,’ replied a guest who was not in a hurry to go.
    The village head ignored all the comments and called a tall boy with fair skin, broad chest and a smart look, who was moving a big vessel into the kitchen, lifting it all alone. He was strong, well built. Had a pleasing look too.
    ‘Venkitachalam, come here’ . That was only a request though it appeared like a command. “You are 16 plus and therefore over aged for marriage. You are selected as a constable and therefore a girl’s father will think twice before asking your father for your horoscope. Paru is dark complexioned, short in size, but she will make an excellent wife and take care of you so well that, to some extend she will fill the gap of your mother and father, who are not alive”
    The boy hesitated. ” Let us wait for the next boat”
    “The Muhoortham can’t wait,” the old man said, ‘say yes or no. The decision is yours”
    He nodded his head. The wedding, in a grand scale, went on for five days.
    The couple lived happily for several years. The wife was a wonderful support to him, to their relatives and for the whole village. The husband, did have a dormant feeling that she was not a match for him. By nature of his job, he was rude to everyone even to his wife, but was honest to his wife to the core, though he was telling his friends, intentionally or jokingly that in his next birth he expected to have a good looking wife.
    She didn’t take it seriously as she was well aware of the disparity in their appearance.
    They went to Rameswaram and while taking dip in the sea, he held her hand and said, ‘Paru, pray that in the next 21 births, you and you alone should be my life partner’.

  • Perinkulam story – continued

     
    There was a big rock formation on the main road of the South village, which was removed and the road leveled, by Doriappan mama who also took lead in the construction of a Mantapam for the Krishnaswamy, where the marriage of my first sister took place over five decades ago. He had a small elephant, Krishnankutty, fondled by the villagers. The temple chariots started rolling through the main street of Thekkae gramam only after the blockade was removed.
    Water scarcity was a major problem and I have seen womenfolk carrying water, all the way from the well adjoining Perinkulam. Most of the occupants were priests with a meager income but lead a satisfied life as their needs were minimum. They were seen moving with barren chest across the streets, some with a thorthumundu, a small piece of cloth on their shoulders. They never wore their footwear inside the village. I had seen my father removing his footwear and holding those in his hands, while entering the village, during his visits. He lived at Olavakkode, where he had a hotel, but used to frequently visit the village. There was a small elementary school and students went to Alathur for high school studies. There was a bank in the Thekkae gramam and another one in the Bank Road. Brahma sri Krishna VadhyAr, his son Kailasa VadhyAr , Ramu VadhyAr, Konthai VadhyAr and Tiruvilwamalai Ramaswamy VadhyAr were known to me personally, in the Thekkae gramam, to which my father belonged to. I also knew Vicha VadhyAr of the Padinjare gramam.
    Sri. P. G. Gopalakrishna Iyer, the head master of the NES High school, Alathur and Vakil Viswanatha iyer were my father’s cousins.
    I have heard about Sri. Raghava Sastrigal, a famous Vaidik and astrologer and have met another prominent astrologer Mookkunni Thirumulpad, who wrote my horoscope and also Shiromani( forgot his name though related to me ) . The benevolent Chamikutty Nair was liberal in supplying provisions from his shop on credit, to the cash-starved Brahmins and never troubled the defaulters! I know him too.
    I am told that his shop is not there now, but opposite to it, blooms red lotuses in an abandoned pond!
    Many of our villagers used to visit us, on their way to receive or see off their relatives at the Railway station, which was close to our house. My father was known as Olavakkode Ananthan and his nickname in the village was KariakkAr. Villagers were experts in giving nicknames, appropriate and funny. None knows me in my village by my furlong- long passport name!
    We have a vacant land adjoining the temple, sanctified as the parking place for the Ratham, chariot of our Krishnaswamy. My knowledge of the Agraharam is limited as I didn’t live there, though the very name, sends emotive vibrations through my nerves. Whenever I enter my village, I bow my head down in reverence to the air and soil with which is mingled the memories of my forebears. Their worldly remains were charred to ashes on the bank of Chooriappan kulam and I used to spend some silent minutes musing on the pleasures and pangs of their lives about which I have heard stories from my father. My blog contains a few writes up on my ancestral village. I was excited when my youngest son Srikanth and his wife, married just a few days before, took active part in the car festival, during our last visit. The satisfaction that our children carry on our ancestral torches of culture is unique. The neipandams, (hand torches soaked in ghee and ignited ) the grand kids carry, when a dead body is removed from the house, symbolizes their carrying forward our tradition?
    The shape and occupancy of the Brahmin Agraharams are changing fast and in due course, the tile roofed, top -slopping houses in two rows will be replaced with monotonous flats albeit with better comforts ( see pictures 4 &5 below) . The charm of thinnais, the raised platforms with polished floors in the front, which used to serve as our drawing room, visitors lounge, game center, individual and group meeting platforms etc will be lost for ever. The present generation and perhaps the next might fonder the memory of Thinnai, koodam, kottukoodam, chAipu, matchu, arai etc ( various portions of the house) for some more years and afterwords, like all other old objects, those too will get submerged under the waves of the Past. I will miss the top -opened Nadumuttams , in the heart of the houses, the big receptacle of sun light and rain.
    There are stories of miracles about the village deities but I would not like to dwell on that topic. I have, however to mention two happenings of personal experience.
    My younger brother, Viswanathan, as a child, had an aversion for cooked rice; he used to abhor the very sight of it . My father, once arranged for PAyasa neivedyam with rice and distributed the prasadam to children in the mantapam before the shrine. Vicha, on his own, came and sat along with other kids and tasted the neivedyam served on a plantain leaf. From then on, he had no problem in consuming cooked rice. He started eating much more than me! Now, both of us don’t go near the rice food, for a different reason!
    Another event I observed was, a Garuda bird used to appear in the sky and circumambulate the chariot at the time of Ratharohanam.
    In the olden days, our elders never used to wear shirts or sandals while pulling the chariots. It was a regular practice to prostrate before the chariot, at the time of installation and demounting the idols from the chariot. Before each house, women used to wait with lamps, fruits and flowers to receive the chariot. Sambaram, further liquified butter milk or coconut water used to be served, free of cost, at many places. Many are still following these practices. The elders used to distribute small coins, called, ‘ther kaineetam’ to children and servants. Clothes too used to be donated by those who could afford. I remember having received a four anna coin from my Sivaswamy Chithappa as ther kaineetam. While I stayed in his house during a holiday. His mother, my Venku Chithammai patty has gained a seat in my stories for her ‘PahavAnae Saranam’ phrase. That was her equivalent for ‘do they duty, that is best; leave unto thy God, the rest’ .When things go beyond my control, I too repeat her oft- used phrase. Incidentally, the villagers were never short of wits and humor and conversation skill, though were short of money.
    My father was an expert conversationalist with wits and wisdom. None of his children, inherited his qualities of maturity, courage and will power, though he was a school- dropout. His personal charm too. His walk, from his village to Palakkad, with my mother and me as a baby on his shoulder, for starting a small business, despite his traditional background , was the beginning of our migration, which, has landed now his kin, in countries beyond seas. In every family, there will be one person, who starts the first walk.
    I envy the villagers’ cool – headed approach to problems and courage to face calamities, Awesome was their attitude of taking life and events, ‘as they unfolded’.
    My ‘NamAmi nithyam Navaneetha Krishnam ‘ stotram is a humble Tulasidalam, dedicated at the lotus feet of our Krishnaswamy.
    We have left Perinkulam , seeking food and shelter elsewhere. But, our village will never leave us. Go to any remote corner of the Globe, you will see one or two Perinkulams.
    Perinkulam lives!
     
     
    Index of pictures:
    1. The chariots in a row.
    2. A row of old houses
    3. Mahalakshmi temple
     
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